For Guys

Is your girlfriend pregnant?

Do you feel like you don’t know what to do or where to turn? Have lots of questions?

Let’s talk, man to man.

Birthline isn’t only for women and their babies, but also for boyfriends, husbands, dads and extended family. Our male advocates provide support during this challenging time, judgement-free and confidentially.

You’ve probably got a lot of questions right now, such as:

  • Is she really pregnant?
  • Is the baby mine?
  • What is it going to cost me?  [abortion, child support, marriage, etc]
  • Should we tell our parents and if so, how?
  • What are my legal rights?
  • Can she abort without my consent?
  • What are the effects of abortion on her?  On me?
  • What about adoption?
  • Can I continue my education?
  • Am I ready to be a parent?
  • What does she expect or want from me?
  • Can our relationship last though this?

You probably have a lot of mixed feeling going on. Let’s get together and talk through your questions and concerns, man to man. We offer one-on-one help with a trained, knowledgeable male advocate. You can call or email Birthline to meet with someone here at our office or just for coffee: (970) 663-2671 or [email protected]. You won’t need to bring any paperwork – no pressure!

We’ll help you sort it out and understand your options, and help you determine what is best for you, her and this baby. Here’s some thoughts that might help right now.

  • Listen. What is she saying to you? The situation involves more than just you. There are three lives to think about now.
  • Stay calm. You may feel like panicking, but you have time to make a well thought out decision. She needs you now more than ever. This baby needs you, too.
  • Ask questions. You both have questions about your choices, what’s happening in her body, and your future.
  • Talk it out. Talk with her and make plans to share the news with parents and Student handshakeothers close to you. Hiding it from those who genuinely can help will only increase your stress and delay their caring support for you.
  • Gather the facts. Get all the information you can and seek out wise counsel. You want to make the best decision for both of you in the short term and long term.
  • How are you feeling? You’re probably feeling some frustration, fear, and anger. You want to blame someone or escape. She’s feeling it too. Don’t bail. Running away may help in the moment, but it makes it harder later to think and act clearly.
  • Don’t pressure her. It could backfire on you, potentially causing regrets. Find a way to work as a team.
  • You matter. Don’t forget that. She may be carrying the baby, but you are both parents. This is your child and you have a very active role in the situation. Listen to input and share your thoughts with one another.
  • Choose carefully.

We are also here for men who are uncertain, grieving or who just need someone to talk to after an abortion. Scientific studies show that a majority of men have a difficult time with the abortion experience, so know that you are not alone. Please stop by or call. Our 24/7 hotline is 1-800-712-4357. We are here for you.